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Writer's pictureKatie Boer

Dementia Diaries: Caregiver Guilt

Updated: Oct 1, 2020

I remember sitting in this parking lot recording this live video like it was yesterday! I felt so guilty. I was so incredibly overwhelmed at this point. So confused.


My wedding had been called off a few months prior to this. I was BROKEN in every sense of the word. I felt like I had no clue what I was doing as a caregiver.


GUILT is a very real emotion for caregivers. My mom used to cry and BEG me not to take her back to the facility 2 years ago. I used to feel terrible if I didn't visit her every... single... day... after I worked. Her family wasn't visiting. My brother wasn't helping. I felt like I had to be daughter + about 10 other people.


But I've learned a lot in two years. You can wear a lot of hats, but you can't BE everyone to somebody.


Specifically that you HAVE TO find a way to take care of yourself--even when doing that feels so selfish.



Watch the first 5 minutes, if you don't want to watch the whol thing... then jump to 17:00 when things start getting real ugly.

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Robert Michelle Arndt
Robert Michelle Arndt
2020年7月13日

Katie, (this is Michelle), I haven't even finished watching your video from 7/11/20, and I just want to jump into the screen and give you a big hug, and tell you everything is ok. You are still very young to have to face this "guilt" alone. It's sad your brother isn't there to help, or anyone else who knows what you are going through. Your feelings are normal, the confusion about how to handle it all is normal. Wanting to ask your mother what to do, is normal. My girlfriend passed away about 3-4 years ago from Lewey Body Dementia. She has three daughters about your same age, who were lost without being able to ask their mother how to…


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